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Being a wife cum student is…..

It feels surreal… everything that has been going on. I’ve prepared all my life for this and yet, it still feels unprepared. Being a wife and a student cannot be more of a dream come true for me.

Hi all! Welcome and thank you for tuning in. This is my personal blog and seeing you here makes my heart flutter with joy. I hope that this post brings you insights as well as brighten up your day as you go through it.

Ahh, you read the title right. I am officially and happily a wife now! Yaay, right? It happened so fast I couldn’t even invite you to the wedding. I will narrate the story in another post tho.

But now that I am a wife, I feel like everything is pleasant and wonderful than before. I feel more responsible and more familial 🤭 than I have ever been.

Adding to that, I am a wife cum student too.

I have double duties and double joy all the more. So, this joy is now uncontainable and I somehow am on the sidewalk, writing this to you all. Wanna see?

So… here’s something I’ve learnt.

I cannot just sit idly at home and wait for my husband to come to me. What do I do with all the spare time? And what do I do home alone?

Also, I didn’t want my marriage life to be a boring one. I want to make it fun. I want to have fun. Even if that means having fun all by myself. He is off to work, and I haven’t secured a job myself.

Here’s what I did instead:

1. When we get up, I get myself super busy with house chores. That leaves him a little less chores to complete in the morning.

2. After I’m done with all that, I, either, get him all prepared and dressed up for the day, or I get dressed up and leave home together

3. My day starts after he leaves home. So I would open my To-Do app and write down things I planned to do. Sometimes there are 3 and sometimes 13. I just cannot get myself to not use the app. Here’s what it looked like:

4. After I tick off some tasks, I take a break and chill for atleast 20 mins.

5. And I repeat. After ticking off all the house chores and Today’s, I move on to my assignments task. It kinda looks like this:

And then I do some social media stuff and end my day when he reaches home.

I say that cuz when he comes home, it’s not his time or my time anymore but our time. And we spend our time together, doing absolutely nothing but making our today’s stories come alive.

Oh and we would talk until dinner and go to sleep.

Haha. As simple as it sounds, I feel like I am juggling work like a clown. I am a happy clown if that is all it takes. 🤭

Thank you for reading. If you liked it or could relate to it, do comment below.

See you next upload! 🙋🏽‍♀️

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Blogging | Why it?

Do you need help with enhancing your thoughts about starting a blog? Well, you’ve come to the right place!

It is right to think about it first, research more than you think you should; making sure if this is what your heart (or head) wants to do.

Before blogging, or starting a business on blogging, here are a number of things you would need to ask yourself.

1. Why?

Ask yourself why.

What is the reason behind your wanting to blog? Maybe you have reasons like improving your writing skills, or maybe having your own platform of journaling. Isn’t there a better alternative to this? Whatever it is, you need to find a why behind it. You need to understand if your why is whether a weak reason or a great one. You don’t want to start a blog without anything in mind. This would quickly tire and bore you out. For example, I created this blog because of these reasons – write down my thoughts and let people know, getting out of my comfort zone, improving my writing skills, and become someone who can make a difference by helping people find a solution to their problems.

If your reason is similar to mine, then I give you the next question to ask yourself.

2. What?

Now, before you blog, you gotta make sure what blogging really is.

For this, I would like to bring out two points:
1. What is blogging, as defined by the internet?
No, I won’t give you the answers to this as I want you to just get out there, and research what it really means to blog.

2. What is blogging to you?
Again, this is similar to the “why”, but this is a more in-depth question as compared to it. This is when people ask you what is blogging, and you define them the things you know about blogging. They won’t like to hear what the world defines it, they would love to hear YOUR thoughts, so just give it a try. Define blogging in your own way, it can be a 3-words definition or a 3-page, depending on what you think it is.

This is where you will realize if you are really into it. And you would thank yourself that you are not trying to be like someone else.

3. How?

Now that you are done answering the two most important questions, “how” is another step-2 question you need to ask yourself?

How should I blog?
How can I get others to acknowledge my insights?
How can I make sure I am different than what somebody has already presented in the internet world?
How should I start?
How can I inspire or help people?

I believe you could come up with better “hows” than I could, but in the meantime, make sure you ask more questions and not depend on questions already present in this post.

4. When?

This is when you are very sure that “starting a blog” is calling you out. You are super sure about it and need to plan ahead for what kind of posts and/or topics you will write about.
Questions you need to ask yourself are:

When should I start planning?
When should I create the first post?
When should I schedule my posts?
When should I take a break?

Since you are just some number of steps far to start a blog this is where I would make sure I keep check of the following things:

5. Is it worth it?

What this question makes you consider is whether it can be worth of your time.
What if it eats up your time and you might not have time to rest or maybe meditate in the morning anymore?
What if the experience as presented by other bloggers isn’t what you will get?
What if the things you now consider to be a fortune, lead to you being stagnant in your growth?
Is it worth giving it a try?
Is what I am searching for, be found in this thing?

After clearing all negative thoughts about this, you go and do it! I assure you the things you research now will be helpful in the future. Thank yourself later if this is applicable.

6. Is it for me?

Maybe someone has said, “Blogging isn’t for everyone”. I guess this is where you can ask yourself if blogging is for you.
What will I lose or gain when I blog?
Will I be content with what you get?
What will become of me if I start blogging?
Will blogging satisfy my longing for writing?

Yes, keep on asking, even if it is a lot. In the end you will notice these questions will help you define what you are doing. So don’t give up already. A prize is waiting for you at the end.

7. What niche should I take up?

Most of you will already have known what a niche is. But if you don’t, here is an assignment for you: Double click on the word “NICHE”, right click and click on wherever that says “define or search”. Found it? Good! You are a smart person!

Coming back to this, this is the most important thing to research about. Without a niche, your audience wouldn’t be much interested to stay at your website and know more about it. You have got to have a niche. I can’t help you define your niche for you, because it differs from person to person. Some people take up “Finance” as a niche, while others take up “Travelling”. You could find out about your personality, and decide your niche based on that, but you can also just google out the different niches available and pick something that suits you. But I also need you to remember that a niche is more profitable if it can solve people’s problems.

8. Target audience

Target audience is something that I have just come to understand. You would need to know a lot about who the “target audience” is. I usually see my target audience as customers or somebody interested in reading my blogs, someone having similar interests. Once you understand who the “target audience” is, you can go on to define who YOUR target audience is. My target audience could be students at school and people like you who want to start a blog. Here I defined my target audience, so my blog ideas will center around them.

9. Finances

For earning through a blog, you wouldn’t just want to stay on a free membership, rather, you will need to invest a certain amount of money, if you want to be profitable yourself, that is. I also have friends who blog for fun and not earning from them. But if you want to have a side-job, like me, this is an important step to take. Check your finances and see if you can afford to upgrade your account to a business plan so you can earn through it. But it is not mandatory to have a plan if you are getting started. You need to gain followers and subscribers first, and then, if you see it is worth upgrading, you can do so.

10. How to earn?

The last step. I wanted to include this here, although, blogging should not be seen in just the perspective. If you have just started out, believe me, it would take some time to gain followers, but you need to keep on pushing and not give up. Post blogs frequently and not let your account sit through. Engage with the blogging community so you can be more inspired and get to know more people through it. Then if you feel you are ready for it, find out ways to earn through a blog. Reach out to people who just started earning, or people who have earned tons of cash from blogging and ask for tips. Be curious and act! But if you are blogging without the want to earn, that is totally up to you.

This is the only advice I can give you. I hope you like this post. Do comment below on what you think about these tips, or if they have or have not helped you at all. Thanks for reading (and commenting). Until next time! Byeee

P.S: I have introduced myself to the world because I came through my confidence journey. I will also write about my confidence journey, but in the meantime, watch this!

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You’re gonna be okay

I have been off blogging for a while lately and I felt like I didn’t really know how to do it anymore. I just got lost in the reality of life and found myself wandering over the things present on this platform.

I just didn’t know what to write anymore or how to write at all. For the past week, there had been happening too many life-changing situations that I just couldn’t be inspired to be here anymore. I wanted to start fresh, to renew whatever there, is to begin with.

This week has especially been a special and memorable one. My dad passed away. Before you go all the way into that, I would like to express my gratuity for you being here and reading this. Thank you for being this anonymous friend here and trying to be empathetic to what I am about to share. I hope you will also be blessed with a similar kind of companionship 🙂

This blog will be about the recent life-changing journey that I have encountered in the previous weeks and how I overcame it all.

It was on the first week of January when he got really sick. I went to see him at the hospital. He was wearing his old comfy tee. Staring into my eyes, he demanded me to come closer. The doctors said he won’t be able to speak as yet. Half of his body couldn’t function any longer. Yes, it was a hypertensive stroke. He murmured something, and I am left in tears for not understanding what he wanted me to do. I phoned my sister, but she was still home, washing herself. Fast forward to tomorrow, we came to know that he suffered from heart disease last stage. The docs said “We can’t do anything for you anymore, I am sorry”

I was deeply depressed, couldn’t perform well at work and couldn’t help home when they needed me to. A week later, I quit my job. I felt like serving two masters at the time and wanted to give up one. But logically, you don’t give up your family; so work it was.

After a week, my dad passed away. At that time my emotions went numb. I was in need of a psychiatrist/therapist or at least someone to counsel me at this very much-needed hour when people say I don’t have a heart cuz I didn’t cry at the funeral. Not that I didn’t, I tried but I just couldn’t feel a bit of emotions through my body.

Now, what do you do when this happens? You talk to your family, right? But there exists members who might not understand you and just talk about it as if it ain’t no biggie. So, I shut down. My mind, heart and body didn’t function anymore. It felt as though I was a walking dead body with a functioning nose and brain (note: I said mind shut down. I presume you know the difference between them)

After two nights of his funeral, I began to feel for his absence. I cried at 3 am, I cried it all out. Not leaving with me a single regretful tear. That was how I regained my feelings and emotions. I began to feel sorry again for dogs whose leg was hurt, and strayed cats. This is how I understood that not all people have the same kind of energy-plant that they could go to and refresh themselves. Some of us also have a cell such as mine that we enter in order for us to become even more equipped with what the world is teaching us. Some of you might have been privileged because you like to drink and I have heard stories that getting drunk does help you forget them all, unlike me, I just couldn’t drink even if I want to. I also just don’t want to forget my problems through a drink, and instead, I want to face it so it teaches me to become more matured. But I might just be judging here.

Do you also have a similar pattern in your life? Lost someone? Someone lost you? How do you relate to this?

Let me know in the comments section below! I want to give you a shout out for overcoming that but would like to know the process of how this has transformed you in a way.. so it helps others who even reads the blog 😊

Have a great time ahead 🙂